A few days ago my boyfriend and I were having sex for the first time and about halfway through I told him to stop. He said he couldn't stop right in the middle of things and kept going. I felt bad afterwards and I was wondering, is this rape? I'm not sure if it is or not because I did tell him to stop and I'm kind of scared to be around him now. And if it is, what should I do? Scared Meet Hot T! Go To The Hot T Archive

Dear Scared, What you describe is the most common form of rape, known as date rape. Date rape is a rape or sexual assault in which the attacker is someone the victim knows and has been out with. Date rape is often a result of a guy refusing to take no for an answer. Even if a girl has willingly gotten into an intimate situation, she still has the right to say no - and if her partner doesn't respect that right and forces her into having sex, it is rape. This is rape whether the rapist uses physical force, violence, a weapon or threats to get what he wants, or if he uses emotional manipulation - making his victim feel guilty or confused. Since you were violated by someone you know and most likely, trust, it can be so shocking that the reality of the situation doesn't sink in right away. It is important, however, to try and gather your thoughts so that you can try to stop the attack from going any further with you or anyone else. Though it seems you don't need medical help, you definitely need emotional support. Some women and girls feel so shocked that they feel they don't actually want to tell anyone what has happened, but it's important that you don't suffer alone. All secual attacks should be reported to the police, but you'll most likely want some comfort and backup from someone you know first. Ideally, you should talk to your parents, close friends and /or anyone else you trust. You should also call the Rape Crisis Line 1-800-448-4663, which is manned by sympathetic, trained counselors who are incredibly easy to talk to and will be totally understanding. If you don't want to report to the date rape to the police, it's woprth thinking that you'll be doing a very good, very important thing if you can gather up the courage to go through and report. First, if you bring the guy to justice, it might save other girls and women from going through what you've been through. Hot T is so very sorry you have to deal with this problem If you need further assistance, check your yellow pages under Rape or Crisis lines and get the professional assistance you need. I wish you the best,